01 · Weeks 1–2
Pattern Recognition
Audit what was lost, the patterns you brought in, and the stories and numbing that keep them running.
You leave with Pattern Audit and Relationship Audit
Built for one kind of man.
This is for you if you are
- Legally divorced, roughly six months to five years out
- Past the legal emergency: no custody fight or court date driving your week
- Able to invest in the cohort without putting yourself in a hole
- Willing to look at your own part in how the marriage ended, and to own what you build next
- Ready to speak plainly on a weekly call with up to four other men
This is not for
- Men in immediate crisis
- Men in active custody litigation
- Men in active addiction and not in treatment
- Men looking for legal or custody advice
- Men looking for reconciliation counseling, or a plan to win her back
- Men who need therapy or treatment rather than coaching
Eight weeks. Five men maximum. A written plan, practiced in real life.
Leave with a clear direction for your work, health, relationships, fatherhood, and weekly life, then a structure for acting on it.
What that looks like: you know what this week is for. Your evenings stop disappearing. A bad week gets a plan instead of a spiral. And every commitment you keep is proof you can trust yourself again.
By the final call, your patterns will be named, your operating code written, your 12-month blueprint completed, and your weekly behaviors practiced.
The book gives you the map. The cohort makes you use it.
What I can show you, and what I can’t.
Pattern. Code. Blueprint. Execution.
Four stages, two weeks each. Every stage ends in a document you keep, so you never have to guess what to work on next.
02 · Weeks 3–4
Operating Code
Define ownership, standards, values, boundaries, and consistency.
You leave with Personal Operating Code
03 · Weeks 5–6
Future Blueprint
Define the man and life you are building twelve months from now.
You leave with 12-Month Future Blueprint
04 · Weeks 7–8
Weekly Execution
Convert the blueprint into weekly behaviors and create a plan for setbacks.
You leave with Weekly Execution Plan and Setback Protocol
Based on the framework in Benjamin Kingston’s book, BUILT: A Map for Men After Marriage.
How the cohort works.
The book is the map. The cohort is the room where you use it.
- Week 0
- One private 30-minute kickoff video call with Ben.
- Weeks 1–8
- One 90-minute group implementation call each week.
- Group size
- Five men maximum. The cohort may begin with fewer than five.
- Between calls
- A weekly assignment, plus limited written check-ins with Ben.
01
Decisions out loud
Vague answers get questioned. Decisions get named.
02
Someone checks next week
Every call ends with an assignment. The next call starts with what you did.
03
Men who get it
Four other men who’ve been where you are. No explaining, no performing. You’ll see your own pattern faster in someone else.
04
Written, not felt
Every stage ends in a document you keep.
Why five men?
Every man speaks on every call. In ninety minutes, five men each have time to report what they did, get questioned on it, and leave with their next assignment. Add more and someone starts hiding in the back. That is why the cohort is capped at five, and why it may begin with fewer.
| Compare | The book $19.99 | The cohort $1,500 |
|---|---|---|
| What it is | Self-guided map | The implementation room |
| Pace | Yours | Weekly for eight weeks |
| Who’s in it | You | You, up to four other men, and Ben |
| Accountability | None | Weekly assignments checked on the next call |
| What you leave with | Self-guided answers to sixteen Markers | Six completed implementation documents, practiced weekly with accountability |
Everything included in one implementation package.
The live calls are where the implementation happens. The materials and documents make the work visible, usable, and repeatable.
01
The calls
- One private 30-minute kickoff call
- Eight weekly 90-minute group implementation calls
- Five men maximum
- Every participant has space to speak on every call
02
Between calls
- Weekly assignments
- Each assignment is set at the end of one call and checked at the start of the next
- Limited written check-ins with Ben between calls
03
What you write
- Pattern Audit
- Relationship Audit
- Personal Operating Code
- 12-Month Future Blueprint
- Weekly Execution Plan
- Setback Protocol
04
What you read
- BUILT: A Map for Men After Marriage, digital edition Sent before your kickoff call and used throughout the cohort.
- The Markers All sixteen end-of-chapter questions, formatted for completion and review.
No surprise bonuses, hidden fees, or required upsells. The cohort is one complete implementation package.
BUILT: The Post-Marriage Build
Investment
You are not paying for access to information. You are paying for a small room where decisions become commitments, commitments become behavior, and behavior becomes evidence of the man you are becoming.
$1,500 paid in full
or two payments of $800
The payment plan costs $100 more in total.
The founding cohort is the first time this framework is being delivered live. I’m keeping it to five men so I can watch where the process breaks, improve it, and give every participant direct attention. The cohort may begin with fewer than five. Applications close when five men are accepted.
Apply to see if it’s a fitBefore you apply.
Is this therapy?
No. BUILT is educational coaching. It is not therapy, legal or custody advice, crisis intervention, addiction treatment, or reconciliation counseling. It can sit alongside therapy. It doesn’t replace it.
Do I need to read the book first?
No. The digital edition of BUILT: A Map for Men After Marriage is sent before your kickoff call and used throughout the cohort.
What does each week involve?
One 90-minute group call, a weekly assignment that is set at the end of one call and checked at the start of the next, and limited written check-ins with Ben between calls.
What happens after I apply?
Ben reads every application personally. If BUILT looks like a fit, the next step is a short fit conversation where you can ask questions. You only enroll if you both agree. Nothing is charged to apply.
What if fewer than five men are accepted?
The cohort may begin with fewer than five. Five is the maximum, so every man has room to speak on every call.
Is what I share kept private?
Cohort conversations are private to the group but are not legally privileged or clinically confidential. Share only what you are comfortable having other participants hear.
Can I cancel?
You may cancel within 72 hours of enrollment, provided the cohort has not begun, for a full refund. Once the cohort begins, payments are non-refundable.
The application
Apply for the BUILT founding cohort.
Nothing is charged to apply. Every application is read personally by Benjamin Kingston. If it looks like BUILT may be appropriate, the next step is a short fit conversation where you can ask questions before deciding.
Applying is not enrolling. You only enroll if we both agree the cohort is a fit.
$1,500 paid in full, or two payments of $800
Application Founding cohort
Cancellation and refunds
You may cancel within 72 hours of enrollment, provided the cohort has not begun, for a full refund. Once the cohort begins, payments are non-refundable because the group is capped at five and delivery resources are reserved. No specific emotional, legal, financial, or relationship outcome is guaranteed.
What is promised is the scheduled delivery: eight weekly group calls, one private kickoff call, the stated materials, weekly assignments, and limited written accountability.
BUILT does not promise reconciliation, a new relationship, a custody or legal outcome, or a feeling. It promises the scheduled structure, a small implementation room, and six completed documents if you do the work.
Please review this policy before enrolling.